The Let Down; How The New Netflix Series Lifts Moms Up

Newly released to Netflix, Australian Productions presents us with The Let Down.  A raw comedy series with powerful insight to the “Twilight Zone period of becoming a new parent”, specifically for new mom Audrey (depicted by Alison Bell). Along with Audrey losing her identity outside of being a mom, sleep deprivation. struggling to breastfeed – she also lacks support from her partner Jeremy (casted by Duncan Fellows), her mother and her parentless friends. This series doesn’t portrays motherhood as “The Holy Grail” as it’s normally seen. This is the kind of show that will bring you right back down to Earth. As a recent first time Mom myself, I absolutely loved and binged this show. The Australian Comedy Series is full of such relatable raw moments and underlying humor.

The Let Down

Episode one opens dark, it’s late night, in a park. With poor Mombie Audrey (yes, Mombie, a “mom zombie“) trying to sleep in her parked car after driving around her (now) sleeping two month old baby Stevie. Just as she doses off she gets a knock on her window from a drug dealer who tells her to get out of his office. Since poor Stevie doesn’t sleep well at night it’s a reoccurring thing, driving through the park, that Aud and the drug dealer cross paths so much, they develop a quirky bond throughout the episodes.

Poor Audrey just fancy’s the usual sips of coffee, alcohol, sex, a social life and some gosh darn support. Hearing some nice and complementary comments along the way can really have an impact on your mentality, especially if you’re a (new) mom, especially if you’re like Audrey. If someone asked her, “how are you really?” I think she would have been through the roof.  Since she isn’t getting the back up she needs and deserves from friends, husband or mum, she seeks her own comfort and turns to a mommy group.

Skeptical and feeling uninvited at first, the mommy group, made up of a group leader, three other moms and one dad, become her backbone. Although at first the moms seem to have it all together, Audrey comes to find that everyone has their own troubles and inadequacies. The troop demonstrates different types of parenting techniques, outside family dynamics, personal struggles, tales of their horrid birth stories and experiences of personal mom shaming. As the support grows stronger, unique friendships are formed.

Parenthood, specifically motherhood, is trial and error. Even though I already knew this and am experiencing it myself… it’s still relieving to see Audrey and the other group moms/dad going through the same troubles, self doubt and lack of confidence I sometimes struggle with. I don’t want to see anyone else suffer but it’s reassuring to know it’s perfectly normal.

The Let Down also confirmed that sometimes keeping secrets from your significant other is okay. For instance Audrey goes on a weekend getaway and leaves baby Stevie with clueless Dad. He can’t get her to eat and calls over a couple of moms from the mom group, one of which breastfeeds Stevie. Instantly as the baby latches Jeremy goes “Do we tell Audrey??” And in unison they loudly say “Noooooooooooooo!” Or when Audrey ends up in the wrong group meeting and bumps into her drug dealer friend, but stays because it rejuvenates her sense of self. Or just for the fact that she never mentioned the drug dealer pal until he catches her and her husband fooling around in the car – some secrets are okay and it’s okay to keep somethings to yourself if it’s not hurting anyone. It’s the thrill of the small things I’d say.

The Let Down is funny and a mirror image to real life. The series encouraged me to feel less crazy and more sane. What Audrey came to discover and what I discovered is that most moms always seem so put together. And sometimes we are, but sometimes we aren’t. You should not be afraid to let your emotions show and to feel vulnerable. We’re all in the same boat. We’re all mothers trying to do the best for our children.

You’ll reminisce, you’ll cry, you’ll laugh, you’ll relate. The Let Down will not let you down.

 

 

 

 

The Importance Of Keeping Your Identity Outside Of Being A Mom

It’s too easy to kick your identity outside of being a mom to the curb. Do you have an identity outside of being a mom? I see handfuls of moms “lose themselves” whether it’s physically or mentally.

How does that even happen?

I love being a mother. I do. But I always said I will not lose who I am as an individual.

I wear many hats as I’m sure you do too. Obviously my baby is my number one priority in life but in order for me to be the best mom for my daughter I must focus on continuing to remain true to myself  and my identity from before I was a mom. Who am I besides “mommy“? Well that’s easy. I’m me. I’m still Morgan. Just different. My life is absolutely grand. Don’t get me wrong, my days are long and full of wet diapers, mountains of poop, tears, giggles, naps, endless bottles and endless laundry. But the best of all is that new baby smell that fills my nose all day long. I wouldn’t change it for the world. I love my daughter more than I love myself. I will always put her first, but at the same time I do at least one thing for myself daily.  I have to, otherwise I’d lose my marbles.

Even if it’s only 10 minutes out of my small 24 hour window, I find the time. At first I wasn’t sure how, it’s been a process of self-discovery really. You think maybe it’s hard to manage and have a balance because now you’re solely relied on by a tiny human who is otherwise helpless. Well you’re right, it can be hard, it is hard. Maybe you’re thinking “oh God what have I signed up for?” Ladies, you signed up for one of the most remarkable and meaningful parts of life – motherhood

What is your passion outside of being a boss mom? And how did you figure it out?

How to not lose your identity you may ask? Don’t let go of your habits and obsessions that interested you before. And it’s probably easier said than done but make sure you also get enough sleep. It’s so important. 

How do I do it?

Yes, somedays I have “lazy days” but most days I try to have my hair and makeup done. I like to be cozy but I still love picking out cute outfits and looking good for my man. He won’t say it because he says I look great either way but I know he appreciates the effort. And I always find time to write. Whether it’s on here or in my journal. Or read a chapter in my book since I’ve always been a bookworm. Keeping my mind focused on creative thinking helps keep me sane and clear thinking for my baby.

Other hobbies or areas of passion of mine include caring for my plants and my animals. And I love to go thrifting, listening to music and I appreciate a good beer. I’ve become the dreaded “beer snob.”  

Motherhood is my sole identity but not my only identity because I am more than a mom. I’m an individual who’s interesting, funny, unique and creative.

It’s important to not lose your self love because one day your children will grow up and you wouldn’t want to be lost or not knowing what to do with yourself, so give yourself a head start and love yourself and be you always.