Buddhism Through American Women’s Eyes was one of the most enlightening books I’ve read in a while — tales of how the practice of Buddhism has affected women and their mental states in situations that men can’t necessarily experience — a prime example, childbirth and motherhood. One of the sections of the book that stood out to me most was about women who meditated before they actually became mothers. Without going into grave detail the end of the chapter concluded that women need to give moms a break so they can still meditate (which I totally understand and agree with by the way) but then I realized that my daughter is my muse and that mothering in itself is my meditation. As we all know it gets hectic with little ones sometimes. They’re screaming, or they’re cranky, they’re making a mess – but even still in those moments I take a step back and it’s like the whole world around me stops and it’s just me and my child. In a split second I reflect and everything is immediately put into perspective – my mind becomes clear(er), I realize how beautiful, valuable and fragile life really is, especially through such young eyes as a child.
When my child was first born I knew she was pure, original, healthy and more importantly a future member of society. It’s a cliche but the children are our future. My main goal in parenting is give her love, compassion and honestly. I believe that you get back what you put out into the universe so I’m teaching her what I can even before she is able to speak, crawl or walk — teaching her one of the greatest lessons in this life, loving-kindness. I am her karma spirit guide after all. Using our household pets and plants I’m teaching my daughter non-harm and non-hate. As they say parents are our first teachers. As we help our children grow the next phase is to help them look for something deeper in their lives, whether it’s their passions and hobbies, their future careers, etc.
I wish for my child(ren) to be giving, selfless, loving. How do I teach this? You can say say say but really what you need is to do do do. As the firstborn especially our daughter is spoiled. By me, her father, her aunts, her grandparents, our family friends… so when it comes to when she’ll start having parties with friends and such – in leu of gifts I want to donate to a cause. I met a woman today who does this with her daughter and I’m truly inspired by it. Perhaps gather pet supplies to give to a the humane society, or nonperishable food items to give to a food shelter, or gather and give old toys to those less fortunate. Something natural that she and her friends will be able to take with them as the grow up. Something rewarding for all of us – and it’ll be reinforced because we will be doing it as a family and with her friends. I will always lead by example for my daughter. I will be the best person I can be for her – becoming a mom didn’t change who I was just how I “do me” because now I have to “do us” – do for our family.
Doing good for others and giving when you can is good for the soul – the interconnectedness from within herself that will come out of these traditions will be a key ingredient into being a successful and contributing member of society in the future. Loving-kindness and a good heart creates the most powerful protection and makes the world go round, and as a mother I will always protect my daughter.
The Word of Mommy Morgan✨🌿 